Methods to be used when web-love was uncovered

People benefit a lot from the development of high technology. Space traveling, communication across the ocean within minutes and watching different programs on the same TV set at the same time are some of examples. But the presence of web brings both active and passive effects on people involved.

Here is a story about failure of love online, showing the side effect of the web. Almost one year ago, in a Chinese game room, a kind middle-aged woman met by accident a man with a cheerful disposition. Both of them were conservative and lived a happy life with their respective family. Similar educational background and outlook on life connected them closely to each other. They found so much in common with one another that they could not help falling in love with each other online. Three months later, their dubious relationship was unfortunately revealed by his wife. The fighting within his family did not seem to wake up the two lovers. With breaking his promise to his wife, he continued dating online with his lover. They enjoyed themselves more and more on the web without any notice of his wife’s warning. His wife was finally provoked beyond endurance and told the whole story to her opponent’s husband. No doubt that war broke out between the two families. In the end, the man got divorced reluctantly and the woman became a schizophrenia.

For the lovers who have their own independent family, web love makes them happy when everything goes smoothly, while it leads to great suffering to both when the secret is unfortunately exposed. In the latter case, different lovers give various responses. Is there any method for the web lovers to take when they are in great trouble? Stopping further contact between the two, taking the corresponsive responsibility for what has happened, and avoiding revenge oneself on the enemy are useful ways to solve the problem intellectually when web love is revealed if the web lover has already been a wife or a husband.

First, totally cutting the further connection between the lovers is the most important. For most of the web soulmate, the only purpose to get together is to find an intimate who is deeply appreciative of one’s talents while the spouse is unable to. They usually don’t wish to hurt anyone else in the family. If the illicit relation results in the family crisis, reining in on the brink of the precipice is in urgent need. To cease communication with the web lover can prevent both families from further harm.

Second, taking the blame for what has happened is duty-bound since each lover plays its own part in the event.  A person takes the whole legal responsibility for the spouse. Any kind of quarrel or fighting between a couple can only be solved by themselves. If the husband’s love online brings a disaster to his family, it is him, not the lover, who is fully responsible for the harm upon his family. It is disgraceful to shirk responsibility to his lover. 

Finally, any kind of revenge taken on any other person involved would certainly make the condition worse and worse, and should be absolutely avoided. Intellectual people should consider a matter as it stands. Retaliation hurts not only the enemy but also the donor itself. No better result would be achieved by way of reprisal.